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On this day, life, for me, changed. I became a wife, a help meet (some will get some won’t), a stepmother, and a daughter-in-law. I was excited, happy, thrilled, and nervous all at the same time.¬†God takes us through seasons. I like to call them periods of transition. Two years prior to this day, my period of preparation for this day began…and I ain’t e’en know it!! I kept asking God, “Why am I going through this? Why am I being stressed like this? Why am I so uncomfortable? I don’t know if I can do this.” Little did I know it was for me to be the woman and wife I needed to be for Bud. I had to experience certain things. I had to go through situations. I needed to see some stuff take place so I could be the best version of Natasha Oliver I was called to be. I had to be taken out of my comfort zone. Some good some bad, but I wouldn’t trade a single moment. ūüėä
Our periods of transition are not always easy, fun, or comfortable. Hell, they can sometimes be, downright painful. What they are, though, are moments of growth. They are preparation for something better… awesome and amazing that we can’t always see. They are God’s way of preparing us to be able to handle what he trusts us with. I thank God for trusting me to be Bud’s wife… Trusting me to be his rib.¬†God knows what’s best for us long before we do.

“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.” ~Jeremiah 29:11~

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Deadlines are something that I’ve always dealt with. I had deadlines for school, for work, and I placed deadlines on things happening in my life. Let me tell you what I’ve learned about those deadlines in my life…God has a way of showing you who’s God!¬†It is one thing to set goals and have a target. It is another to say, “This has to happen by this day or else…!”¬†When we set goals, if they are not met, we shouldn’t get discouraged and quit. We should keep going until the goal is reached. Over the years, I’ve put deadlines on my career, my education, personal relationships, and more. In my season of turmoil, struggle, and stress, I was really making demands. I wanted a husband…NOW. I wanted a new career…NOW. I wanted my businesses to take off…NOW. I wanted to go to law school…NOW. I didn’t realize the stuff I was doing to make those things happen…NOW…were what was causing my sleepless nights and tears. I wanted to know why God¬†wasn’t allowing what I, THOUGHT, I wanted and needed to just happen. I wasn’t seeing that I needed to be still and rest in the Lord. I didn’t believe He could or, even, would help me. One year ago, yesterday, life shifted for me. I was forced to face some things going on in my life and in that process, I developed a relationship with God. I was seeing that I had to stop trying to make things happen on my own and allow God to move in my life. Things were not going according to my timeline because it was not God’s timeline. My situations started to turn around for the better…financial, spiritual, and emotional. I acknowledged God was in control…not Tasha Cooper! HONESTY MOMENT…I thought I had gotten to that place…the place where I could take my hands off things and let God handle it. Having a deadline for my $1,000 bonus this week put that to the test. Needless to say, I still have some work to do. I didn’t completely fail because I recognize that there is still work to be done and God is not through with me. I, now, see the promotion and bonus wasn’t all it was about.¬†I need to move out of my own way so I can be ready for the blessings¬†God¬†has for me. I believe he wants me to keep pushing and not¬†get stuck and in my feelings when things don’t go my way. I want to encourage anyone reading this to just KEEP GOING. When things don’t go as planned and you miss MAN’S deadline, understand that it is not God’s deadline. He is ALWAYS in control and His timing is ALWAYS perfect. As long as we stay in His word and keep him first, we will receive everything he has promised us. “God has perfect timing: NEVER early, NEVER late. It takes a little patience and a lot of faith, but it’s worth the wait.”¬†“He replied, `The Father alone has the authority to set those dates and times, and they are not for you to know.`” ~Acts 1:7~



One thing I’ve learned in my, almost, 36 years of life is life is going to happen, regardless, and time waits for no one. I had my life planned out and I just knew by the time I was 30 years old, everything I wanted, from a family, to monthly travel, to shopping without looking at price tags, to being an attorney, to retiring my parents, would be done by that time. Weeelllll, my Faithful Phoenix’s…NO. What happened over the past 18 years was LIFE. My father always says to me, “Natasha, life is what happens when you’re busy making plans.” I, honestly, never paid that any attention until I started evaluating and reflecting on my life. I got pregnant, early in life…shout out to my, almost SWEET 16 baby Khaliyah…, changed college majors more times than I can count, my father was diagnosed with kidney cancer.. still alive, 16 years later, after a prognosis of only six months to live, BUT GOD!!!…, and the list goes on. Even during all of these things taking place in my life, I was still making plans. For years, I did travel, regularly and¬†shop like I wanted…at the cost of working six jobs, which at the time didn’t bother me. I remained in college, stopping for a total of, about one year combined, but I wasn’t where I wanted to be or felt I should be. I didn’t plan for all the stress that was consuming me and the, many years in college, and the rocky, eight year, relationship. The life I planned for was supposed to be perfect…I, really, believed that.¬†What I didn’t see was I was forcing the life I wanted without enjoying the journey and allow God to work. June of 2010, my life changed, DRASTICALLY!. My eight year relationship was over and the financial and emotional downward spiral began. It was not at a fast speed to start, so things didn’t look that bad. Over time, nothing I had planned or was planning was working or coming to fruition…LIFE WAS HAPPENING! I was blessed to be able to have finished my MBA by 29, but there were still some things that hadn’t taken place. I wasn’t ready to move forward and I felt time was getting away from me. I wasn’t ready for repossession, foreclosure, bounced checking accounts, anxiety and depression (diagnosed early in life but ignored), anger, hatred, alcoholism, and smoking. Those were things that I would have never thought I would have to deal with on a daily basis for a week or two, let alone five years. It took me FIVE LONG years to grasp the concept there are things that MUST be placed in the hands of God…let go and let God. When I stopped trying to control everything, when I stopped trying to be my savior, when I stopped putting money before everything, when I stopped blaming my ex for my problems, and when I started trusting and believing in JESUS CHRIST, I was READY!!! Ready to deal with and cope with whatever came my way. I knew that it would not easy or pleasant, always, but I would be able to keep my head up, keep pushing, and make it through. I still have the dream of becoming an attorney. I am getting married in August, I am an entrepreneur, and I am enjoying every minute of telling pieces of my story in hopes that it will help others in their lives. Everyday, I get closer to financial freedom because I don’t worship money the way I used to. I, truly, am thankful the change and a changed mindset. “Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said,¬†‚ÄúNever will I leave you;¬†never will I forsake you.” ~Hebrews 13:5~ ¬†“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” ~Philippians 4:13~



I used to say, “I hate my life,” “This gets on my nerves, “I’m tired of struggling,” and “When are things going to change?” Everything that came out of my mouth was as negative as negative comes. Keep in mind, because I was living it, I didn’t see it as negative. I saw it as speaking on what was, actually, happening. I didn’t realize what I was speaking out and thinking is what was happening. Over the course of five years, I went through hell…mentally, physically, financially, and emotionally. I didn’t see the positive in ANYTHING. I was ready to give up and die. Most of us have been at this place a time, or three, if we are honest with ourselves. We get so wrapped up in the problems we see and how to handle them or not handle them, that we forget how blessed we are. “Sometimes it takes an overwhelming breakdown to have an undeniable breakthrough.” DISCLAIMER: I was not, always, where I am today, and I, still, have a long ways to go…BUT…I had to learn to be thankful for what, and who, I did and do have. I didn’t have three cars anymore, but I had a reliable car to get me and my daughter around. I couldn’t¬†go out to eat everyday, but I always had food to eat. I couldn’t go to the beach every weekend and walk around, but I had, full, use of my legs to walk downtown for FREE. While I was busy complaining about what I didn’t have, there were so many people who would’ve loved to have had half of what I had. I was, constantly, at it with my daughter and complaining, when there are parents who can’t have children or have lost a child. Most of all, I was blessed with life, day after day, to fight another day. People’s struggle may be similar, but will not be the same. My struggles, over the past five years, are the best things that could’ve happened to me. They brought me closer to my daughter, I learned more about myself, I have a vision for my life, my purpose has been made clearer, I have a greater appreciation for the smaller things in life, and I have a relationship with God. No matter how dark things seem, from experience I tell you to, get out of your head for a second and find the smallest thing possible to be thankful for…That one thought is a GAME CHANGER on your life’s journey.

“Yet what we suffer now is nothing compared to the glory he will reveal to us later.” ~Romans 8:18~




As I sit here writing this post, I realize I have been up for, almost, 24 hours. I don’t say that for sympathy or to, even, condone not getting the proper amount of sleep. I say it to make a point. For as long as I can remember, my father has drilled, in my head, three ways to look at life. One of those key points is “Short term sacrifice for long term gain.” When I was working on my master’s degree, I thought about quitting. I had four months left and was tired, stressed, frustrated, and burned out. I had been in school, by that time, almost 25 years (kindergarten forward). Due to my procrastination (my fault), every Monday, for 18 months, I didn’t get any sleep. I waited until the last minute to write my papers and get them submitted by the cutoff. Being a single parent, working multiple jobs, being in a relationship, and taking care of three dogs was getting to me on so many levels. I went to my parents to tell them I wasn’t going to finish my degree. My father said, “Natasha, you’re almost there. Why would you quit, now?” I went home and thought about it. If I kept pushing, if I managed my time better, I could get through it. I had to be willing to give up some things to get to where I was trying to go. I had to see the bigger picture…what I was going to be accomplishing. One of those things I gave up, sometimes, was sleep. There are people who go to college and get eight hours sleep every night. I applaud them. That’s not the way my journey was set up. I decided to tough it out and I got my MBA with concentration in Health Care Management.

Since June 1, 2015, I’ve been on a new journey. I’ve written out my vision, I’ve made my dream board, and I’ve started the journey to see and make those things come to fruition. I read the Word, daily, I have created a LLC, with three DBA’s I’m building (they all tie in together), I’m back in school working on additional certifications and diplomas, have an active teenager, and planning a wedding. There are people who tell me I have too much on my plate and, I understand, to them, I do. To me, I’m making some short term sacrifices for long term gain. You see, for a long time, I saw no hope in my future. What I saw was darkness and gloom. I, now, SEE, after developing a relationship with God, there is a brighter day for me, my family, and those I help. There is a future of prosperity, hope, and abundance. You’re not going to, always, feel like staying up late, missing girls night out, working out twice per day, working that extra shift, etc, but in order to get what God has for you, you’re going to have to make some sacrifices. I know it is not going to be easy…BUT, I,¬†also, KNOW it is going to be worth it!!! In order to change our lives, for the better, we have to be willing to change our ways.

“I don‚Äôt mean to say that I have already achieved these things or that I have already reached perfection. But I press on to possess that perfection for which Christ Jesus first possessed me. No, dear brothers and sisters, I have not achieved it,¬†but I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead,¬†I press on to reach the end of the race and receive the heavenly prize for which God, through Christ Jesus, is calling us.” ¬†~Phillipians 3:12-14~


Patience is something that I never had, until recently. I wanted things to happen on my timing. For years, I made that happen…everything from cars to vacation properties to relationships. I was told, by friends and family, to wait on making big purchases and don’t rush the relationship. I, also, had gut feelings, at times, to wait. Me being me, I did what I wanted when I wanted. The when was, usually, NOW. That mentality got me into a world of trouble…financially and mentally. I lost, almost, everything I had, materially, and was, literally, losing my mind. Even during this, I was trying to fix the problem. I didn’t want help because I was proud and felt help made me look weak. Deep down I knew I needed to give it to God, but I still wanted things to happen NOW, so I continued to do things my way. What I wasn’t seeing was that I was being prepared for something far greater than what I couldn’t ever imagined for myself. I had to face those trials and tribulations to grow. I had to experience that hurt and discomfort and come out of it because there was someone I was meant to help. HONEST MOMENT: I was pissed at God for a long time. I couldn’t understand how I could be going through stuff the way I was and not feel relief. The moment I realized every tear I cried, every sleepless night, every bounced check was God’s way of getting MY attention, I surrendered. He wanted me to acknowledge him as Almighty..not money and not my relationships. It didn’t matter what I had/have planned for my life. God’s plan and timing is what matters. I’m not where I want to be, but I thank God I’m not where I used to be. I embrace what everyday holds and know I’m in that moment for a reason. “We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they help us develop endurance. And endurance develops strength of character, and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation.” ~Romans 5:3-4~
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We, often, get wrapped up in what other people say or think about what we do or how we do it. This can cause inner turmoil. What was working for my friends and family was not working for me. I was listening to this person and that person, sometimes judge me, and I began to hate myself. “I’m not here in life” and “I don’t have this” and “Why are you doing this?” I was beating myself up. I had to come to a place where I was ok with where I was. I had to understand my life was just that…MINE. I have learned over the years that there is NO WAY I’m going to please everyone. The best thing for me to do is be pleasing to God first and stay true to myself. The things I’ve gone through in my life were the, very, things I needed to go through and experience to be where I am today and get to where I’m going. I took the long road, based off choices I made. It wasn’t, always, a pleasant ride, but it was an adventure, nonetheless. If your goal is to get a college degree, there are numerous colleges to choose from. They all will get you there…the curriculum or schedule may vary. If your goal is to run 3 miles everyday, there are so many ways to build up to that. There are apps on your phone, or getting a running instructor, or just going out and start running. Either way, if you stick to it, eventually you will be running 3 miles everyday. People will ALWAYS have an opinion of how you should be doing things in your life. Constantly pray and ask God for guidance. Your destination never changes…just the route you take to get there!
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take.” ~Proverbs 3:5-6″
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