Category Archives: Inspiration



We, often, get wrapped up in how much money we DON’T have when it comes to us pursuing our passion, following our dreams, and walking in our purpose. Transparent moment: this is something I, still, struggle with today, but I no longer allow myself to get stuck. I remember the following five things available to me anytime I feel the financial roadblock becoming overwhelming. I say, “Which of these five things can I do, now, to get me closer to my end result?”

  • HANDS– You can use your hands to write a letter to someone you want to be mentored by. You can use your hands to send an email to someone you would love to have as a client/customer. You can log on the internet and request information from the college you desire to attend.
  • MOUTH– If there is something you want to talk about or, even, a book you want to write, just start talking. No need in worrying about all the technicalities, just start talking about it. Use your mouth to draw interest. Ask people questions about what you want or need the answer to.
  • FEET– MOVE!!! Even if you don’t know what your next step is, just take a step…go stand outside. If you want to lose weight, you don’t need money for a gym membership. All you need is your feet. Get to walking! FREE!!!!!
  • NETWORK (other people)– Yes, it is true, people charge for their time, BUT there are people available to you that won’t charge a thing. Your coworker may know someone who can, help, propel you to the next level. You may have a family member who, themselves, can be the resource you need. Building your network means there could be someone at the grocery store who plays a part in you walking in your purpose.
  • FAITH– Faith is belief in something. Whatever it is you are desiring, it costs you absolutely NOTHING to believe it is yours.

I, purposefully, did not mention God as a REsource. God is THE SOURCE. He uses these people or things to help us along the way, while we are fulfilling our purpose in life. It is up to us to tap in to that SOURCE OF POWER! We must study the Word and develop a relationship with God. Seek clarity of your vision and guidance on your journey.

I hope this blesses you. Comments and feedback are welcomed. I love you!

Be good be safe be blessed


~Tasha K~




On this day, life, for me, changed. I became a wife, a help meet (some will get some won’t), a stepmother, and a daughter-in-law. I was excited, happy, thrilled, and nervous all at the same time. God takes us through seasons. I like to call them periods of transition. Two years prior to this day, my period of preparation for this day began…and I ain’t e’en know it!! I kept asking God, “Why am I going through this? Why am I being stressed like this? Why am I so uncomfortable? I don’t know if I can do this.” Little did I know it was for me to be the woman and wife I needed to be for Bud. I had to experience certain things. I had to go through situations. I needed to see some stuff take place so I could be the best version of Natasha Oliver I was called to be. I had to be taken out of my comfort zone. Some good some bad, but I wouldn’t trade a single moment. 😊
Our periods of transition are not always easy, fun, or comfortable. Hell, they can sometimes be, downright painful. What they are, though, are moments of growth. They are preparation for something better… awesome and amazing that we can’t always see. They are God’s way of preparing us to be able to handle what he trusts us with. I thank God for trusting me to be Bud’s wife… Trusting me to be his rib. God knows what’s best for us long before we do.

“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.” ~Jeremiah 29:11~

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One thing I’ve learned in my, almost, 36 years of life is life is going to happen, regardless, and time waits for no one. I had my life planned out and I just knew by the time I was 30 years old, everything I wanted, from a family, to monthly travel, to shopping without looking at price tags, to being an attorney, to retiring my parents, would be done by that time. Weeelllll, my Faithful Phoenix’s…NO. What happened over the past 18 years was LIFE. My father always says to me, “Natasha, life is what happens when you’re busy making plans.” I, honestly, never paid that any attention until I started evaluating and reflecting on my life. I got pregnant, early in life…shout out to my, almost SWEET 16 baby Khaliyah…, changed college majors more times than I can count, my father was diagnosed with kidney cancer.. still alive, 16 years later, after a prognosis of only six months to live, BUT GOD!!!…, and the list goes on. Even during all of these things taking place in my life, I was still making plans. For years, I did travel, regularly and shop like I wanted…at the cost of working six jobs, which at the time didn’t bother me. I remained in college, stopping for a total of, about one year combined, but I wasn’t where I wanted to be or felt I should be. I didn’t plan for all the stress that was consuming me and the, many years in college, and the rocky, eight year, relationship. The life I planned for was supposed to be perfect…I, really, believed that. What I didn’t see was I was forcing the life I wanted without enjoying the journey and allow God to work. June of 2010, my life changed, DRASTICALLY!. My eight year relationship was over and the financial and emotional downward spiral began. It was not at a fast speed to start, so things didn’t look that bad. Over time, nothing I had planned or was planning was working or coming to fruition…LIFE WAS HAPPENING! I was blessed to be able to have finished my MBA by 29, but there were still some things that hadn’t taken place. I wasn’t ready to move forward and I felt time was getting away from me. I wasn’t ready for repossession, foreclosure, bounced checking accounts, anxiety and depression (diagnosed early in life but ignored), anger, hatred, alcoholism, and smoking. Those were things that I would have never thought I would have to deal with on a daily basis for a week or two, let alone five years. It took me FIVE LONG years to grasp the concept there are things that MUST be placed in the hands of God…let go and let God. When I stopped trying to control everything, when I stopped trying to be my savior, when I stopped putting money before everything, when I stopped blaming my ex for my problems, and when I started trusting and believing in JESUS CHRIST, I was READY!!! Ready to deal with and cope with whatever came my way. I knew that it would not easy or pleasant, always, but I would be able to keep my head up, keep pushing, and make it through. I still have the dream of becoming an attorney. I am getting married in August, I am an entrepreneur, and I am enjoying every minute of telling pieces of my story in hopes that it will help others in their lives. Everyday, I get closer to financial freedom because I don’t worship money the way I used to. I, truly, am thankful the change and a changed mindset. “Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” ~Hebrews 13:5~  “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” ~Philippians 4:13~



When we are children, we all talk about what we are going to be when we get older. Everything from a fireman, to an astronaut, to a chef, to a lawyer, to a business owner. What we are not, always, told at a young age is we will have to go to school, many…many…many years to become these things. There will be sleepless nights from studying. There will be financial investments that have to be made in order to get the business out there and help it grow. You can’t just say, “I want to be a heart surgeon,” and expect that to come to pass by watching medical shows on tv. You’re going to have to read, study, job shadow, read some more, do rotations, lose nights of sleep, miss entertainment events, etc., in order for your dream to come to fruition. I would talk about what I wanted out of life and the dreams I had, but I was doing nothing to make them happen. I did go to school and finish, but that is all. I applied for jobs, but, rarely, followed up. I knew I wanted freedom, but believed I would get that in a corporate setting. With everything going on in my life, I used that as an excuse of why I wasn’t working hard. My biggest excuse was money. I was, still, hoping the opportunity of a lifetime would fall in my lap. I started to believe God would make things happen as long as had faith. Sean Combs said, “Never hope for it more more than you work for it.” As things in my life started to shift, so did my mindset. I wanted to work for myself. I started seeing that, for FREE, I could’ve been reading and researching. For FREE, I could’ve been talking to people and getting information and guidance. I realized my dreams were not going to come to pass if I wasn’t willing to put in the work. I have early mornings and long nights. I don’t hang out just to blow money, anymore. My priorities and focus changed, so the road to my goals and dreams changed. Everyday, at some point in time throughout that day, is GRINDay. Now, I am CEO of Phoenix of Hope, LLC, a fitness and nutrition coach, a Brand Ambassador of It Works Global (ties into POH Fitness), and a beauty consultant for Avon. To some that seems like a lot, but it all ties in to my mission for Phoenix of Hope… Helping others to RISE from the ashes by living DPC…Determined…Persistently…Consistently. I thank God for allowing me to have a drive to get to where I want to be in life. “Just as the body is dead without breath, so also faith is dead without good works.” ~James 2:26~



I used to say, “I hate my life,” “This gets on my nerves, “I’m tired of struggling,” and “When are things going to change?” Everything that came out of my mouth was as negative as negative comes. Keep in mind, because I was living it, I didn’t see it as negative. I saw it as speaking on what was, actually, happening. I didn’t realize what I was speaking out and thinking is what was happening. Over the course of five years, I went through hell…mentally, physically, financially, and emotionally. I didn’t see the positive in ANYTHING. I was ready to give up and die. Most of us have been at this place a time, or three, if we are honest with ourselves. We get so wrapped up in the problems we see and how to handle them or not handle them, that we forget how blessed we are. “Sometimes it takes an overwhelming breakdown to have an undeniable breakthrough.” DISCLAIMER: I was not, always, where I am today, and I, still, have a long ways to go…BUT…I had to learn to be thankful for what, and who, I did and do have. I didn’t have three cars anymore, but I had a reliable car to get me and my daughter around. I couldn’t go out to eat everyday, but I always had food to eat. I couldn’t go to the beach every weekend and walk around, but I had, full, use of my legs to walk downtown for FREE. While I was busy complaining about what I didn’t have, there were so many people who would’ve loved to have had half of what I had. I was, constantly, at it with my daughter and complaining, when there are parents who can’t have children or have lost a child. Most of all, I was blessed with life, day after day, to fight another day. People’s struggle may be similar, but will not be the same. My struggles, over the past five years, are the best things that could’ve happened to me. They brought me closer to my daughter, I learned more about myself, I have a vision for my life, my purpose has been made clearer, I have a greater appreciation for the smaller things in life, and I have a relationship with God. No matter how dark things seem, from experience I tell you to, get out of your head for a second and find the smallest thing possible to be thankful for…That one thought is a GAME CHANGER on your life’s journey.

“Yet what we suffer now is nothing compared to the glory he will reveal to us later.” ~Romans 8:18~




As I sit here writing this post, I realize I have been up for, almost, 24 hours. I don’t say that for sympathy or to, even, condone not getting the proper amount of sleep. I say it to make a point. For as long as I can remember, my father has drilled, in my head, three ways to look at life. One of those key points is “Short term sacrifice for long term gain.” When I was working on my master’s degree, I thought about quitting. I had four months left and was tired, stressed, frustrated, and burned out. I had been in school, by that time, almost 25 years (kindergarten forward). Due to my procrastination (my fault), every Monday, for 18 months, I didn’t get any sleep. I waited until the last minute to write my papers and get them submitted by the cutoff. Being a single parent, working multiple jobs, being in a relationship, and taking care of three dogs was getting to me on so many levels. I went to my parents to tell them I wasn’t going to finish my degree. My father said, “Natasha, you’re almost there. Why would you quit, now?” I went home and thought about it. If I kept pushing, if I managed my time better, I could get through it. I had to be willing to give up some things to get to where I was trying to go. I had to see the bigger picture…what I was going to be accomplishing. One of those things I gave up, sometimes, was sleep. There are people who go to college and get eight hours sleep every night. I applaud them. That’s not the way my journey was set up. I decided to tough it out and I got my MBA with concentration in Health Care Management.

Since June 1, 2015, I’ve been on a new journey. I’ve written out my vision, I’ve made my dream board, and I’ve started the journey to see and make those things come to fruition. I read the Word, daily, I have created a LLC, with three DBA’s I’m building (they all tie in together), I’m back in school working on additional certifications and diplomas, have an active teenager, and planning a wedding. There are people who tell me I have too much on my plate and, I understand, to them, I do. To me, I’m making some short term sacrifices for long term gain. You see, for a long time, I saw no hope in my future. What I saw was darkness and gloom. I, now, SEE, after developing a relationship with God, there is a brighter day for me, my family, and those I help. There is a future of prosperity, hope, and abundance. You’re not going to, always, feel like staying up late, missing girls night out, working out twice per day, working that extra shift, etc, but in order to get what God has for you, you’re going to have to make some sacrifices. I know it is not going to be easy…BUT, I, also, KNOW it is going to be worth it!!! In order to change our lives, for the better, we have to be willing to change our ways.

“I don’t mean to say that I have already achieved these things or that I have already reached perfection. But I press on to possess that perfection for which Christ Jesus first possessed me. No, dear brothers and sisters, I have not achieved it, but I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead, I press on to reach the end of the race and receive the heavenly prize for which God, through Christ Jesus, is calling us.”  ~Phillipians 3:12-14~


Patience is something that I never had, until recently. I wanted things to happen on my timing. For years, I made that happen…everything from cars to vacation properties to relationships. I was told, by friends and family, to wait on making big purchases and don’t rush the relationship. I, also, had gut feelings, at times, to wait. Me being me, I did what I wanted when I wanted. The when was, usually, NOW. That mentality got me into a world of trouble…financially and mentally. I lost, almost, everything I had, materially, and was, literally, losing my mind. Even during this, I was trying to fix the problem. I didn’t want help because I was proud and felt help made me look weak. Deep down I knew I needed to give it to God, but I still wanted things to happen NOW, so I continued to do things my way. What I wasn’t seeing was that I was being prepared for something far greater than what I couldn’t ever imagined for myself. I had to face those trials and tribulations to grow. I had to experience that hurt and discomfort and come out of it because there was someone I was meant to help. HONEST MOMENT: I was pissed at God for a long time. I couldn’t understand how I could be going through stuff the way I was and not feel relief. The moment I realized every tear I cried, every sleepless night, every bounced check was God’s way of getting MY attention, I surrendered. He wanted me to acknowledge him as Almighty..not money and not my relationships. It didn’t matter what I had/have planned for my life. God’s plan and timing is what matters. I’m not where I want to be, but I thank God I’m not where I used to be. I embrace what everyday holds and know I’m in that moment for a reason. “We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they help us develop endurance. And endurance develops strength of character, and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation.” ~Romans 5:3-4~
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We, often, get wrapped up in what other people say or think about what we do or how we do it. This can cause inner turmoil. What was working for my friends and family was not working for me. I was listening to this person and that person, sometimes judge me, and I began to hate myself. “I’m not here in life” and “I don’t have this” and “Why are you doing this?” I was beating myself up. I had to come to a place where I was ok with where I was. I had to understand my life was just that…MINE. I have learned over the years that there is NO WAY I’m going to please everyone. The best thing for me to do is be pleasing to God first and stay true to myself. The things I’ve gone through in my life were the, very, things I needed to go through and experience to be where I am today and get to where I’m going. I took the long road, based off choices I made. It wasn’t, always, a pleasant ride, but it was an adventure, nonetheless. If your goal is to get a college degree, there are numerous colleges to choose from. They all will get you there…the curriculum or schedule may vary. If your goal is to run 3 miles everyday, there are so many ways to build up to that. There are apps on your phone, or getting a running instructor, or just going out and start running. Either way, if you stick to it, eventually you will be running 3 miles everyday. People will ALWAYS have an opinion of how you should be doing things in your life. Constantly pray and ask God for guidance. Your destination never changes…just the route you take to get there!
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take.” ~Proverbs 3:5-6″
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Are you going through some tough times right now? Do you feel like no matter how hard you try, you can’t catch a break? If so, take a deep breath in…exhale…say aahhhh! I want you to know you Will be alright. I’ve been in that very place. I saw no way out. No one could make me see and understand that where I, currently, was was not going to be my life forever. Having that mindset made it very difficult to live. I’m not talking about breathing. I’m talking about LIVING…enjoying every moment, good or bad, and embracing the journey. I lost all my money, most of my material possessions, and some “friends.” I didn’t know how I was going to make it and wanted to just die. It was when I developed my own relationship with God that I understood what was being said to me. I had to learn to trust God and his plan and will for my life…not Tasha’s plan. I had to understand that my timeline was irrelevant when it came to God’s timeline. The situations I was in, and still in some, were and are a MUST for me to grow and appreciate the better in life. Your current situation is your situation for a reason. There is a lesson there. It took me five years to recognize mine. Not to discourage, but encourage is why I say pay attention. It didn’t have to take that long, but I was in my own way. Everything changes, including situations. A changed mindset=a changed view=a changed situation. This mentality applies to every situation from losing weight to restoring a relationship to bankruptcy. “For our present troubles are small and won’t last very long. Yet they produce for us a glory that vastly outweighs them and will last forever! So we don’t look at the troubles we can see now; rather we fix our gaze on things that cannot be seen. For the things we see now will soon be gone, but the things we cannot see will last forever.” ~2 Corinthians 4:17-18~ #God1st #Godsplan #Godstiming #faith #hope #trouble #doesntlast #getoutyourway #allowGodtobeGod #thankful #changedmindset #restoration #helpingothers #betterme #betteryou #itworks #phoenixofhope #liveDPC #determined #persistently #consistently #myjourney #comealong #JOINME