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Category Archives: Hope

READY OR NOT…LIFE IS HAPPENING

TK’S TIP OF THE DAY

One thing I’ve learned in my, almost, 36 years of life is life is going to happen, regardless, and time waits for no one. I had my life planned out and I just knew by the time I was 30 years old, everything I wanted, from a family, to monthly travel, to shopping without looking at price tags, to being an attorney, to retiring my parents, would be done by that time. Weeelllll, my Faithful Phoenix’s…NO. What happened over the past 18 years was LIFE. My father always says to me, “Natasha, life is what happens when you’re busy making plans.” I, honestly, never paid that any attention until I started evaluating and reflecting on my life. I got pregnant, early in life…shout out to my, almost SWEET 16 baby Khaliyah…, changed college majors more times than I can count, my father was diagnosed with kidney cancer.. still alive, 16 years later, after a prognosis of only six months to live, BUT GOD!!!…, and the list goes on. Even during all of these things taking place in my life, I was still making plans. For years, I did travel, regularly and shop like I wanted…at the cost of working six jobs, which at the time didn’t bother me. I remained in college, stopping for a total of, about one year combined, but I wasn’t where I wanted to be or felt I should be. I didn’t plan for all the stress that was consuming me and the, many years in college, and the rocky, eight year, relationship. The life I planned for was supposed to be perfect…I, really, believed that. What I didn’t see was I was forcing the life I wanted without enjoying the journey and allow God to work. June of 2010, my life changed, DRASTICALLY!. My eight year relationship was over and the financial and emotional downward spiral began. It was not at a fast speed to start, so things didn’t look that bad. Over time, nothing I had planned or was planning was working or coming to fruition…LIFE WAS HAPPENING! I was blessed to be able to have finished my MBA by 29, but there were still some things that hadn’t taken place. I wasn’t ready to move forward and I felt time was getting away from me. I wasn’t ready for repossession, foreclosure, bounced checking accounts, anxiety and depression (diagnosed early in life but ignored), anger, hatred, alcoholism, and smoking. Those were things that I would have never thought I would have to deal with on a daily basis for a week or two, let alone five years. It took me FIVE LONG years to grasp the concept there are things that MUST be placed in the hands of God…let go and let God. When I stopped trying to control everything, when I stopped trying to be my savior, when I stopped putting money before everything, when I stopped blaming my ex for my problems, and when I started trusting and believing in JESUS CHRIST, I was READY!!! Ready to deal with and cope with whatever came my way. I knew that it would not easy or pleasant, always, but I would be able to keep my head up, keep pushing, and make it through. I still have the dream of becoming an attorney. I am getting married in August, I am an entrepreneur, and I am enjoying every minute of telling pieces of my story in hopes that it will help others in their lives. Everyday, I get closer to financial freedom because I don’t worship money the way I used to. I, truly, am thankful the change and a changed mindset. “Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” ~Hebrews 13:5~  “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” ~Philippians 4:13~

DREAMS DON’T WORK UNLESS YOU DO

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When we are children, we all talk about what we are going to be when we get older. Everything from a fireman, to an astronaut, to a chef, to a lawyer, to a business owner. What we are not, always, told at a young age is we will have to go to school, many…many…many years to become these things. There will be sleepless nights from studying. There will be financial investments that have to be made in order to get the business out there and help it grow. You can’t just say, “I want to be a heart surgeon,” and expect that to come to pass by watching medical shows on tv. You’re going to have to read, study, job shadow, read some more, do rotations, lose nights of sleep, miss entertainment events, etc., in order for your dream to come to fruition. I would talk about what I wanted out of life and the dreams I had, but I was doing nothing to make them happen. I did go to school and finish, but that is all. I applied for jobs, but, rarely, followed up. I knew I wanted freedom, but believed I would get that in a corporate setting. With everything going on in my life, I used that as an excuse of why I wasn’t working hard. My biggest excuse was money. I was, still, hoping the opportunity of a lifetime would fall in my lap. I started to believe God would make things happen as long as had faith. Sean Combs said, “Never hope for it more more than you work for it.” As things in my life started to shift, so did my mindset. I wanted to work for myself. I started seeing that, for FREE, I could’ve been reading and researching. For FREE, I could’ve been talking to people and getting information and guidance. I realized my dreams were not going to come to pass if I wasn’t willing to put in the work. I have early mornings and long nights. I don’t hang out just to blow money, anymore. My priorities and focus changed, so the road to my goals and dreams changed. Everyday, at some point in time throughout that day, is GRINDay. Now, I am CEO of Phoenix of Hope, LLC, a fitness and nutrition coach, a Brand Ambassador of It Works Global (ties into POH Fitness), and a beauty consultant for Avon. To some that seems like a lot, but it all ties in to my mission for Phoenix of Hope… Helping others to RISE from the ashes by living DPC…Determined…Persistently…Consistently. I thank God for allowing me to have a drive to get to where I want to be in life. “Just as the body is dead without breath, so also faith is dead without good works.” ~James 2:26~

BE THANKFUL FOR ALL THINGS…INCLUDING STRUGGLE

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I used to say, “I hate my life,” “This gets on my nerves, “I’m tired of struggling,” and “When are things going to change?” Everything that came out of my mouth was as negative as negative comes. Keep in mind, because I was living it, I didn’t see it as negative. I saw it as speaking on what was, actually, happening. I didn’t realize what I was speaking out and thinking is what was happening. Over the course of five years, I went through hell…mentally, physically, financially, and emotionally. I didn’t see the positive in ANYTHING. I was ready to give up and die. Most of us have been at this place a time, or three, if we are honest with ourselves. We get so wrapped up in the problems we see and how to handle them or not handle them, that we forget how blessed we are. “Sometimes it takes an overwhelming breakdown to have an undeniable breakthrough.” DISCLAIMER: I was not, always, where I am today, and I, still, have a long ways to go…BUT…I had to learn to be thankful for what, and who, I did and do have. I didn’t have three cars anymore, but I had a reliable car to get me and my daughter around. I couldn’t go out to eat everyday, but I always had food to eat. I couldn’t go to the beach every weekend and walk around, but I had, full, use of my legs to walk downtown for FREE. While I was busy complaining about what I didn’t have, there were so many people who would’ve loved to have had half of what I had. I was, constantly, at it with my daughter and complaining, when there are parents who can’t have children or have lost a child. Most of all, I was blessed with life, day after day, to fight another day. People’s struggle may be similar, but will not be the same. My struggles, over the past five years, are the best things that could’ve happened to me. They brought me closer to my daughter, I learned more about myself, I have a vision for my life, my purpose has been made clearer, I have a greater appreciation for the smaller things in life, and I have a relationship with God. No matter how dark things seem, from experience I tell you to, get out of your head for a second and find the smallest thing possible to be thankful for…That one thought is a GAME CHANGER on your life’s journey.

“Yet what we suffer now is nothing compared to the glory he will reveal to us later.” ~Romans 8:18~

LIVE DPC…DETERMINED…PERSISTENTLY…CONSISTENTLY

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Setting a goal and having a dream are great things. They boost our morale and make us feel good about ourselves. After you have said, “I want to do this” or “I’m gonna get this,” what’s next?!? As much I as I would like to tell you just saying it will make it come to pass…IT WON’T! You have to work for it. The easy part is done by speaking it. Now, begins the, real, work. You have to be firm in our decision to meet that mark. You have to devise a plan and execute. Persistence is what take you places. No matter who says you can’t do something, or you won’t do something, you MUST keep going. No matter how difficult the task may seem, how tired you are, how frustrated you get, you MUST keep pushing. You must keep praying. If you don’t give up, you WILL reach that goal and that dream will come to pass. Consistency will keep you there. You have to be habitual and regular. You can’t be “sometimes” in your actions. You have to be constant. You must be steadfast and have that unwavering faith. Even if you achieve what you set out to achieve, there is still work to done to maintain and elevate to the next level. Your success, no matter the venture, won’t last if God isn’t in it. “So let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up.” ~Galatians 6:9~

TRUST THAT THE PROCESS IS PREPARING YOU…BE PATIENT

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Patience is something that I never had, until recently. I wanted things to happen on my timing. For years, I made that happen…everything from cars to vacation properties to relationships. I was told, by friends and family, to wait on making big purchases and don’t rush the relationship. I, also, had gut feelings, at times, to wait. Me being me, I did what I wanted when I wanted. The when was, usually, NOW. That mentality got me into a world of trouble…financially and mentally. I lost, almost, everything I had, materially, and was, literally, losing my mind. Even during this, I was trying to fix the problem. I didn’t want help because I was proud and felt help made me look weak. Deep down I knew I needed to give it to God, but I still wanted things to happen NOW, so I continued to do things my way. What I wasn’t seeing was that I was being prepared for something far greater than what I couldn’t ever imagined for myself. I had to face those trials and tribulations to grow. I had to experience that hurt and discomfort and come out of it because there was someone I was meant to help. HONEST MOMENT: I was pissed at God for a long time. I couldn’t understand how I could be going through stuff the way I was and not feel relief. The moment I realized every tear I cried, every sleepless night, every bounced check was God’s way of getting MY attention, I surrendered. He wanted me to acknowledge him as Almighty..not money and not my relationships. It didn’t matter what I had/have planned for my life. God’s plan and timing is what matters. I’m not where I want to be, but I thank God I’m not where I used to be. I embrace what everyday holds and know I’m in that moment for a reason. “We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they help us develop endurance. And endurance develops strength of character, and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation.” ~Romans 5:3-4~
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YOUR JOUNEY IS YOURS TO UNDERSTAND…NOT THEIRS

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We, often, get wrapped up in what other people say or think about what we do or how we do it. This can cause inner turmoil. What was working for my friends and family was not working for me. I was listening to this person and that person, sometimes judge me, and I began to hate myself. “I’m not here in life” and “I don’t have this” and “Why are you doing this?” I was beating myself up. I had to come to a place where I was ok with where I was. I had to understand my life was just that…MINE. I have learned over the years that there is NO WAY I’m going to please everyone. The best thing for me to do is be pleasing to God first and stay true to myself. The things I’ve gone through in my life were the, very, things I needed to go through and experience to be where I am today and get to where I’m going. I took the long road, based off choices I made. It wasn’t, always, a pleasant ride, but it was an adventure, nonetheless. If your goal is to get a college degree, there are numerous colleges to choose from. They all will get you there…the curriculum or schedule may vary. If your goal is to run 3 miles everyday, there are so many ways to build up to that. There are apps on your phone, or getting a running instructor, or just going out and start running. Either way, if you stick to it, eventually you will be running 3 miles everyday. People will ALWAYS have an opinion of how you should be doing things in your life. Constantly pray and ask God for guidance. Your destination never changes…just the route you take to get there!
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take.” ~Proverbs 3:5-6″
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YOUR CURRENT SITUATION IS NOT YOUR FINAL DESTINATION

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Are you going through some tough times right now? Do you feel like no matter how hard you try, you can’t catch a break? If so, take a deep breath in…exhale…say aahhhh! I want you to know you Will be alright. I’ve been in that very place. I saw no way out. No one could make me see and understand that where I, currently, was was not going to be my life forever. Having that mindset made it very difficult to live. I’m not talking about breathing. I’m talking about LIVING…enjoying every moment, good or bad, and embracing the journey. I lost all my money, most of my material possessions, and some “friends.” I didn’t know how I was going to make it and wanted to just die. It was when I developed my own relationship with God that I understood what was being said to me. I had to learn to trust God and his plan and will for my life…not Tasha’s plan. I had to understand that my timeline was irrelevant when it came to God’s timeline. The situations I was in, and still in some, were and are a MUST for me to grow and appreciate the better in life. Your current situation is your situation for a reason. There is a lesson there. It took me five years to recognize mine. Not to discourage, but encourage is why I say pay attention. It didn’t have to take that long, but I was in my own way. Everything changes, including situations. A changed mindset=a changed view=a changed situation. This mentality applies to every situation from losing weight to restoring a relationship to bankruptcy. “For our present troubles are small and won’t last very long. Yet they produce for us a glory that vastly outweighs them and will last forever! So we don’t look at the troubles we can see now; rather we fix our gaze on things that cannot be seen. For the things we see now will soon be gone, but the things we cannot see will last forever.” ~2 Corinthians 4:17-18~ #God1st #Godsplan #Godstiming #faith #hope #trouble #doesntlast #getoutyourway #allowGodtobeGod #thankful #changedmindset #restoration #helpingothers #betterme #betteryou #itworks #phoenixofhope #liveDPC #determined #persistently #consistently #myjourney #comealong #JOINME

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