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TAP INTO THE SOURCE

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We, often, get wrapped up in how much money we DON’T have when it comes to us pursuing our passion, following our dreams, and walking in our purpose. Transparent moment: this is something I, still, struggle with today, but I no longer allow myself to get stuck. I remember the following five things available to me anytime I feel the financial roadblock becoming overwhelming. I say, “Which of these five things can I do, now, to get me closer to my end result?”

  • HANDS– You can use your hands to write a letter to someone you want to be mentored by. You can use your hands to send an email to someone you would love to have as a client/customer. You can log on the internet and request information from the college you desire to attend.
  • MOUTH– If there is something you want to talk about or, even, a book you want to write, just start talking. No need in worrying about all the technicalities, just start talking about it. Use your mouth to draw interest. Ask people questions about what you want or need the answer to.
  • FEET– MOVE!!! Even if you don’t know what your next step is, just take a step…go stand outside. If you want to lose weight, you don’t need money for a gym membership. All you need is your feet. Get to walking! FREE!!!!!
  • NETWORK (other people)– Yes, it is true, people charge for their time, BUT there are people available to you that won’t charge a thing. Your coworker may know someone who can, help, propel you to the next level. You may have a family member who, themselves, can be the resource you need. Building your network means there could be someone at the grocery store who plays a part in you walking in your purpose.
  • FAITH– Faith is belief in something. Whatever it is you are desiring, it costs you absolutely NOTHING to believe it is yours.

I, purposefully, did not mention God as a REsource. God is THE SOURCE. He uses these people or things to help us along the way, while we are fulfilling our purpose in life. It is up to us to tap in to that SOURCE OF POWER! We must study the Word and develop a relationship with God. Seek clarity of your vision and guidance on your journey.

I hope this blesses you. Comments and feedback are welcomed. I love you!

Be good be safe be blessed

BYE BYE!!!

~Tasha K~

HIS PLAN IS BETTER THAN YOURS

WEDDING

TK’S TIP OF THE DAY

GOOD MORNING BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE ūüĆě
On this day, life, for me, changed. I became a wife, a help meet (some will get some won’t), a stepmother, and a daughter-in-law. I was excited, happy, thrilled, and nervous all at the same time.¬†God takes us through seasons. I like to call them periods of transition. Two years prior to this day, my period of preparation for this day began…and I ain’t e’en know it!! I kept asking God, “Why am I going through this? Why am I being stressed like this? Why am I so uncomfortable? I don’t know if I can do this.” Little did I know it was for me to be the woman and wife I needed to be for Bud. I had to experience certain things. I had to go through situations. I needed to see some stuff take place so I could be the best version of Natasha Oliver I was called to be. I had to be taken out of my comfort zone. Some good some bad, but I wouldn’t trade a single moment. ūüėä
Our periods of transition are not always easy, fun, or comfortable. Hell, they can sometimes be, downright painful. What they are, though, are moments of growth. They are preparation for something better… awesome and amazing that we can’t always see. They are God’s way of preparing us to be able to handle what he trusts us with. I thank God for trusting me to be Bud’s wife… Trusting me to be his rib.¬†God knows what’s best for us long before we do.

“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.” ~Jeremiah 29:11~

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NEVER GIVE UP

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Today’s post is going to be short, sweet, and simple. When we set out to do something or obtain something, we do so with expectation. Expectation of meeting our goal. If that goal or mark isn’t reached or doesn’t¬†happen on our terms or in our timing, we stop. We get in our feelings. We allow fear of failure to set in. We start listening to other people tell us how they knew it wouldn’t work or we couldn’t do it. We throw the idea or dream away. Babe Ruth said, “Don’t let fear of striking out keep you from swinging the bat.” I’m living proof that if there is something in this world you are truly passionate about achieving, DON’T GIVE UP!!! It can be getting your high school diploma, having a family, losing 50 pounds, starting a business, overcoming depression, running a 10k, or even winning a food eating contest… pizza would be fun lol. Don’t let other people’s opinion about YOUR passion stop you. The vision wasn’t given to them.¬†Who cares you didn’t succeed the first time. Truth be told, you might not succeed the second, third, or fourth time, either. What will make you a winner and successful is for you to keep going. The¬†mission of Phoenix of Hope is to help other live DPC…Determined…Persistently…Consistently. I promise you that if you keep God first, stay in his Word, and live DPC, you WILL achieve all that you set out to do…no matter who you are…as long as you know whose you are!!! This is my favorite Bible verse because it gets me through EVERYDAY (tattoo on me)…”I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” ~Philippians 4:13~

TRUST GOD’S TIMING

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Deadlines are something that I’ve always dealt with. I had deadlines for school, for work, and I placed deadlines on things happening in my life. Let me tell you what I’ve learned about those deadlines in my life…God has a way of showing you who’s God!¬†It is one thing to set goals and have a target. It is another to say, “This has to happen by this day or else…!”¬†When we set goals, if they are not met, we shouldn’t get discouraged and quit. We should keep going until the goal is reached. Over the years, I’ve put deadlines on my career, my education, personal relationships, and more. In my season of turmoil, struggle, and stress, I was really making demands. I wanted a husband…NOW. I wanted a new career…NOW. I wanted my businesses to take off…NOW. I wanted to go to law school…NOW. I didn’t realize the stuff I was doing to make those things happen…NOW…were what was causing my sleepless nights and tears. I wanted to know why God¬†wasn’t allowing what I, THOUGHT, I wanted and needed to just happen. I wasn’t seeing that I needed to be still and rest in the Lord. I didn’t believe He could or, even, would help me. One year ago, yesterday, life shifted for me. I was forced to face some things going on in my life and in that process, I developed a relationship with God. I was seeing that I had to stop trying to make things happen on my own and allow God to move in my life. Things were not going according to my timeline because it was not God’s timeline. My situations started to turn around for the better…financial, spiritual, and emotional. I acknowledged God was in control…not Tasha Cooper! HONESTY MOMENT…I thought I had gotten to that place…the place where I could take my hands off things and let God handle it. Having a deadline for my $1,000 bonus this week put that to the test. Needless to say, I still have some work to do. I didn’t completely fail because I recognize that there is still work to be done and God is not through with me. I, now, see the promotion and bonus wasn’t all it was about.¬†I need to move out of my own way so I can be ready for the blessings¬†God¬†has for me. I believe he wants me to keep pushing and not¬†get stuck and in my feelings when things don’t go my way. I want to encourage anyone reading this to just KEEP GOING. When things don’t go as planned and you miss MAN’S deadline, understand that it is not God’s deadline. He is ALWAYS in control and His timing is ALWAYS perfect. As long as we stay in His word and keep him first, we will receive everything he has promised us. “God has perfect timing: NEVER early, NEVER late. It takes a little patience and a lot of faith, but it’s worth the wait.”¬†“He replied, `The Father alone has the authority to set those dates and times, and they are not for you to know.`” ~Acts 1:7~

READY OR NOT…LIFE IS HAPPENING

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One thing I’ve learned in my, almost, 36 years of life is life is going to happen, regardless, and time waits for no one. I had my life planned out and I just knew by the time I was 30 years old, everything I wanted, from a family, to monthly travel, to shopping without looking at price tags, to being an attorney, to retiring my parents, would be done by that time. Weeelllll, my Faithful Phoenix’s…NO. What happened over the past 18 years was LIFE. My father always says to me, “Natasha, life is what happens when you’re busy making plans.” I, honestly, never paid that any attention until I started evaluating and reflecting on my life. I got pregnant, early in life…shout out to my, almost SWEET 16 baby Khaliyah…, changed college majors more times than I can count, my father was diagnosed with kidney cancer.. still alive, 16 years later, after a prognosis of only six months to live, BUT GOD!!!…, and the list goes on. Even during all of these things taking place in my life, I was still making plans. For years, I did travel, regularly and¬†shop like I wanted…at the cost of working six jobs, which at the time didn’t bother me. I remained in college, stopping for a total of, about one year combined, but I wasn’t where I wanted to be or felt I should be. I didn’t plan for all the stress that was consuming me and the, many years in college, and the rocky, eight year, relationship. The life I planned for was supposed to be perfect…I, really, believed that.¬†What I didn’t see was I was forcing the life I wanted without enjoying the journey and allow God to work. June of 2010, my life changed, DRASTICALLY!. My eight year relationship was over and the financial and emotional downward spiral began. It was not at a fast speed to start, so things didn’t look that bad. Over time, nothing I had planned or was planning was working or coming to fruition…LIFE WAS HAPPENING! I was blessed to be able to have finished my MBA by 29, but there were still some things that hadn’t taken place. I wasn’t ready to move forward and I felt time was getting away from me. I wasn’t ready for repossession, foreclosure, bounced checking accounts, anxiety and depression (diagnosed early in life but ignored), anger, hatred, alcoholism, and smoking. Those were things that I would have never thought I would have to deal with on a daily basis for a week or two, let alone five years. It took me FIVE LONG years to grasp the concept there are things that MUST be placed in the hands of God…let go and let God. When I stopped trying to control everything, when I stopped trying to be my savior, when I stopped putting money before everything, when I stopped blaming my ex for my problems, and when I started trusting and believing in JESUS CHRIST, I was READY!!! Ready to deal with and cope with whatever came my way. I knew that it would not easy or pleasant, always, but I would be able to keep my head up, keep pushing, and make it through. I still have the dream of becoming an attorney. I am getting married in August, I am an entrepreneur, and I am enjoying every minute of telling pieces of my story in hopes that it will help others in their lives. Everyday, I get closer to financial freedom because I don’t worship money the way I used to. I, truly, am thankful the change and a changed mindset. “Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said,¬†‚ÄúNever will I leave you;¬†never will I forsake you.” ~Hebrews 13:5~ ¬†“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” ~Philippians 4:13~

DREAMS DON’T WORK UNLESS YOU DO

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When we are children, we all talk about what we are going to be when we get older. Everything from a fireman, to an astronaut, to a chef, to a lawyer, to a business owner. What we are not, always, told at a young age is we will have to go to school, many…many…many years to become these things. There will be sleepless nights from studying. There will be financial investments that have to be made in order to get the business out there and help it grow. You can’t just say, “I want to be a heart surgeon,” and expect that to come to pass by watching medical shows on tv. You’re going to have to read, study, job shadow, read some more, do rotations, lose nights of sleep, miss entertainment events, etc., in order for your dream to come to fruition. I would talk about what I wanted out of life and the dreams I had, but I was doing nothing to make them happen. I did go to school and finish, but that is all. I applied for jobs, but, rarely, followed up. I knew I wanted freedom, but believed I would get that in a corporate setting. With everything going on in my life, I used that as an excuse of why I wasn’t working hard. My biggest excuse was money. I was, still, hoping the opportunity of a lifetime would fall in my lap. I started to believe God would make things happen as long as had faith. Sean Combs said, “Never hope for it more more than you work for it.” As things in my life started to shift, so did my mindset. I wanted to work for myself. I started seeing that, for FREE, I could’ve been reading and researching. For FREE, I could’ve been talking to people and getting information and guidance. I realized my dreams were not going to come to pass if I wasn’t willing to put in the work. I have early mornings and long nights. I don’t hang out just to blow money, anymore. My priorities and focus changed, so the road to my goals and dreams changed. Everyday, at some point in time throughout that day, is GRINDay. Now, I am CEO of Phoenix of Hope, LLC, a fitness and nutrition coach, a Brand Ambassador of It Works Global (ties into POH Fitness), and a beauty consultant for Avon. To some that seems like a lot, but it all ties in to my mission for Phoenix of Hope… Helping others to RISE from the ashes by living DPC…Determined…Persistently…Consistently. I thank God for allowing me to have a drive to get to where I want to be in life. “Just as the body is dead without breath,¬†so also faith is dead without good works.” ~James 2:26~

BE THANKFUL FOR ALL THINGS…INCLUDING STRUGGLE

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I used to say, “I hate my life,” “This gets on my nerves, “I’m tired of struggling,” and “When are things going to change?” Everything that came out of my mouth was as negative as negative comes. Keep in mind, because I was living it, I didn’t see it as negative. I saw it as speaking on what was, actually, happening. I didn’t realize what I was speaking out and thinking is what was happening. Over the course of five years, I went through hell…mentally, physically, financially, and emotionally. I didn’t see the positive in ANYTHING. I was ready to give up and die. Most of us have been at this place a time, or three, if we are honest with ourselves. We get so wrapped up in the problems we see and how to handle them or not handle them, that we forget how blessed we are. “Sometimes it takes an overwhelming breakdown to have an undeniable breakthrough.” DISCLAIMER: I was not, always, where I am today, and I, still, have a long ways to go…BUT…I had to learn to be thankful for what, and who, I did and do have. I didn’t have three cars anymore, but I had a reliable car to get me and my daughter around. I couldn’t¬†go out to eat everyday, but I always had food to eat. I couldn’t go to the beach every weekend and walk around, but I had, full, use of my legs to walk downtown for FREE. While I was busy complaining about what I didn’t have, there were so many people who would’ve loved to have had half of what I had. I was, constantly, at it with my daughter and complaining, when there are parents who can’t have children or have lost a child. Most of all, I was blessed with life, day after day, to fight another day. People’s struggle may be similar, but will not be the same. My struggles, over the past five years, are the best things that could’ve happened to me. They brought me closer to my daughter, I learned more about myself, I have a vision for my life, my purpose has been made clearer, I have a greater appreciation for the smaller things in life, and I have a relationship with God. No matter how dark things seem, from experience I tell you to, get out of your head for a second and find the smallest thing possible to be thankful for…That one thought is a GAME CHANGER on your life’s journey.

“Yet what we suffer now is nothing compared to the glory he will reveal to us later.” ~Romans 8:18~

LIVE DPC…DETERMINED…PERSISTENTLY…CONSISTENTLY

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Setting a goal and having a dream are great things. They boost our morale and make us feel good about ourselves. After you have said, “I want to do this” or “I’m gonna get this,” what’s next?!? As much I as I would like to tell you just saying it will make it come to pass…IT WON’T! You have to work for it. The easy part is done by speaking it. Now, begins the, real, work. You have to be firm in our decision to meet that mark. You have to devise a plan and execute. Persistence is what take you places. No matter who says you can’t¬†do something, or you won’t do something, you MUST keep going. No matter how difficult the task may seem, how tired you are, how frustrated you get, you MUST keep pushing. You must keep praying. If you don’t give up, you WILL reach that goal and that dream will come to pass. Consistency will keep you there. You have to be habitual and regular. You can’t be “sometimes” in your actions. You have to be constant. You must be steadfast and have that unwavering faith. Even if you achieve what you set out to achieve, there is still work to done to maintain and elevate to the next level. Your success, no matter the venture, won’t last if God isn’t in it. “So let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up.” ~Galatians 6:9~

SHORT TERM SACRIFICE FOR LONG TERM GAIN

SACRIFICE

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As I sit here writing this post, I realize I have been up for, almost, 24 hours. I don’t say that for sympathy or to, even, condone not getting the proper amount of sleep. I say it to make a point. For as long as I can remember, my father has drilled, in my head, three ways to look at life. One of those key points is “Short term sacrifice for long term gain.” When I was working on my master’s degree, I thought about quitting. I had four months left and was tired, stressed, frustrated, and burned out. I had been in school, by that time, almost 25 years (kindergarten forward). Due to my procrastination (my fault), every Monday, for 18 months, I didn’t get any sleep. I waited until the last minute to write my papers and get them submitted by the cutoff. Being a single parent, working multiple jobs, being in a relationship, and taking care of three dogs was getting to me on so many levels. I went to my parents to tell them I wasn’t going to finish my degree. My father said, “Natasha, you’re almost there. Why would you quit, now?” I went home and thought about it. If I kept pushing, if I managed my time better, I could get through it. I had to be willing to give up some things to get to where I was trying to go. I had to see the bigger picture…what I was going to be accomplishing. One of those things I gave up, sometimes, was sleep. There are people who go to college and get eight hours sleep every night. I applaud them. That’s not the way my journey was set up. I decided to tough it out and I got my MBA with concentration in Health Care Management.

Since June 1, 2015, I’ve been on a new journey. I’ve written out my vision, I’ve made my dream board, and I’ve started the journey to see and make those things come to fruition. I read the Word, daily, I have created a LLC, with three DBA’s I’m building (they all tie in together), I’m back in school working on additional certifications and diplomas, have an active teenager, and planning a wedding. There are people who tell me I have too much on my plate and, I understand, to them, I do. To me, I’m making some short term sacrifices for long term gain. You see, for a long time, I saw no hope in my future. What I saw was darkness and gloom. I, now, SEE, after developing a relationship with God, there is a brighter day for me, my family, and those I help. There is a future of prosperity, hope, and abundance. You’re not going to, always, feel like staying up late, missing girls night out, working out twice per day, working that extra shift, etc, but in order to get what God has for you, you’re going to have to make some sacrifices. I know it is not going to be easy…BUT, I,¬†also, KNOW it is going to be worth it!!! In order to change our lives, for the better, we have to be willing to change our ways.

“I don‚Äôt mean to say that I have already achieved these things or that I have already reached perfection. But I press on to possess that perfection for which Christ Jesus first possessed me. No, dear brothers and sisters, I have not achieved it,¬†but I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead,¬†I press on to reach the end of the race and receive the heavenly prize for which God, through Christ Jesus, is calling us.” ¬†~Phillipians 3:12-14~

TRUST THAT THE PROCESS IS PREPARING YOU…BE PATIENT

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Patience is something that I never had, until recently. I wanted things to happen on my timing. For years, I made that happen…everything from cars to vacation properties to relationships. I was told, by friends and family, to wait on making big purchases and don’t rush the relationship. I, also, had gut feelings, at times, to wait. Me being me, I did what I wanted when I wanted. The when was, usually, NOW. That mentality got me into a world of trouble…financially and mentally. I lost, almost, everything I had, materially, and was, literally, losing my mind. Even during this, I was trying to fix the problem. I didn’t want help because I was proud and felt help made me look weak. Deep down I knew I needed to give it to God, but I still wanted things to happen NOW, so I continued to do things my way. What I wasn’t seeing was that I was being prepared for something far greater than what I couldn’t ever imagined for myself. I had to face those trials and tribulations to grow. I had to experience that hurt and discomfort and come out of it because there was someone I was meant to help. HONEST MOMENT: I was pissed at God for a long time. I couldn’t understand how I could be going through stuff the way I was and not feel relief. The moment I realized every tear I cried, every sleepless night, every bounced check was God’s way of getting MY attention, I surrendered. He wanted me to acknowledge him as Almighty..not money and not my relationships. It didn’t matter what I had/have planned for my life. God’s plan and timing is what matters. I’m not where I want to be, but I thank God I’m not where I used to be. I embrace what everyday holds and know I’m in that moment for a reason. “We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they help us develop endurance. And endurance develops strength of character, and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation.” ~Romans 5:3-4~
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